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Grief and Mourning

Grief counselors and psychologists are well-equipped to help people who are mourning, carefully guiding them through the bereavement process. Grieving is a normal, healthy experience and is necessary fr moving beyond the pain of illness and death. However, some losses feel so extreme that grief becomes overwhelming. Mesothelioma is often one of those situations.

The death of a loved one is a common source of grief. However, you can also grieve for someone who is struggling with a severe illness like mesothelioma. During these tough situations, you may also grieve for yourself as you fight an often fatal illness. While grief is a normal part of life, it also hard. Remember you are not alone. It is possible to work through grief, coming out on the other side feeling better.

Mesothelioma – A Difficult Cancer and a Reason to Grieve

Mesothelioma strikes approximately 3,000 people in the United States every year. This rare cancer is caused almost exclusively by exposure to asbestos. Victims did nothing to cause their illness beyond showing up for work. In some cases, victims only lived with someone who worked with asbestos, bringing the dangerous mineral dust home on their clothing.

Mesothelioma patients may feel as if they were dealt a bad hand since they did nothing “wrong” to cause their illness. This aggressive cancer is also usually diagnosed quite late, often decades after asbestos exposure. This can make the diagnosis quite a shock. Grief is compounded because patients often have a short amount of life left, with much of that time spent fighting the disease.

Mesothelioma is not unique in its shock level or its cruelty. However, its impact is often worse because it is a preventable disease. Those responsible for the millions who have been exposed were often fully aware of the health risks they forced on their employees and customers. Many companies, whether asbestos mining companies, product manufacturers, or construction businesses, exposed their employees and others knowing their products were dangerous. They put profits over people.

Coping with Loss from Cancer

Even though grieving is normal, the process is not easy. Mourning is a long process. You will go through stages, and while your pain may lessen as you accept hard reality, you may be inconsolably sad, bitter or angry for many years. Here are some ways to cope with grief:

  • Recognize and acknowledge your emotions. Grief is not just sadness. You may also feel anger, hopelessness, and even guilt. Allow yourself to feel your emotions, recognizing them as part of the process. Learning the names of many different emotions can help you more honestly express your complex feelings.
  • Surround yourself with loved ones. Now more than ever, you need social support. Even if you don’t feel discussing your grief, it helps to be around people who love and support you. They can even distract you when negative emotions overwhelm you.
  • Accept the loss. This may sound obvious, but denial is powerful. You won’t be able to start feeling better until you let grief wash over you. Accept that the person you love is gone or that your life has changed forever. Only then will you be able to start puting your life back together.
  • Adjust to a different world. Once you accept that your life has changed, you can adjust. Your life won’t necessarily be worse, but it will be different.
  • Find a support group. Support from loved ones is important. However, relationships with those going through the same experience are invaluable. If you have mesothelioma, join a cancer support group. If you have lost a loved one, join a group for those experiencing the same loss.

Mourning for Your Own Life

People with a terminal cancer like mesothelioma often grieve for themselves. This is normal and not at all selfish. Cancer, especially mesothelioma, feels both devastating and unfair. You can and should mourn many things, including the loss of your previous life. You may also mourn your own mortality and even smaller things like hair loss during chemotherapy.

If your feelings of anxiety, fear, sadness, and hopelessness persist, you may be clinically depressed or experiencing anxiety disorder. If this is the case, you will need professional treatment. A mental health professional can help you talk through your feelings and help change the way you think and feel. Therapy and medications may be helpful.

Grief and Mesothelioma

Grieving a mesothelioma diagnosis and possible death can be particularly terrible. A mesothelioma diagnosis is often a life sentence. Family members, friends, colleagues, and loved ones watch helplessly as the patient struggles with invasive procedures. They may also have to stand by watching the slow deterioration of a loved one, dealing with all the pain and frustration associated with it.  Because patients and their family and friends feel helpless, they may find themselves cursing those who caused the condition. When a specific person or company can be blamed, it is difficult to forgive and impossible to forget.

The families of mesothelioma patient often feel like crime victims, and for good reasons. Those hurt by mesothelioma often find their grief compounded and prolonged by the lengthy legal process that often goes on for years after the patient has died.

If you are grieving because of mesothelioma, allow yourself to go through the process. Seek support from others. Also, allow an advocate to help you through any legal battles you are facing. You need to focus on healing and the mourning process, which is why a mesothelioma lawyer is so helpful in taking charge of the legal battle for you.

Page Edited by Dave Foster

Dave has been a mesothelioma Patient Advocate for over 10 years. He consistently attends all major national and international mesothelioma meetings. In doing so, he is able to stay on top of the latest treatments, clinical trials, and research results. He also personally meets with mesothelioma patients and their families and connects them with the best medical specialists and legal representatives available. Connect with Patient Advocate Dave Foster

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